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null - (2014-06-02 20:10:01.0)

According to me if you try to put love aside of marriage then it will look better off.

You are marrying with a person.
1. He/she knows your habit.
2. He/she knows your feeling.
3. He/she is acquaintance with your all actions and routine.

I mean to say someone who can manage with you. Love is a product of time it only grows if there are positive vibes passing between the two.

Take an example:
Many film stars changed their life partner frequently because of they are not satiable with the thoughts of partner.
But if you look out at high class politician / businessman you will rarely found segregation or divorce case.
So one should know what the purpose of being marrying to a person is.
Love marriage is actually far better off than arranged marriage because you are choosing a person within month.

If you are united with soul level it is worthless of saying the dialogue that true love involves no physical relation when it is between two persons who willingly thinking of marrying each other. Besides love couples are husband and wife too. From this angle now you can have two relations, first love and second married life.

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null - (2014-06-02 20:45:04.0)

Love marriage or Arranged marriage?
There are host of factors that will decide how a person will envisage a marriage and pursue for a final decision ?.from the face and figure of the ?would be? spouse??etc. etc?to his professional background, life style, earning potential?. to cultural background etc? etc. . Under this process there must be certain element of compromise while one factor is favourable to offset another deficient factor. The overall evaluation, to some extent makes both persons to believe that each one is a beneficiary will alone lead to the marriage. If dowry and any other compulsory conditions involving money, property or costly gifts transfer are not involved even girls too become equally a beneficiary in such a situation, especially when she is equally or better educated and landed into a gainful employment and will have her own entity with own financial freedom.

Thus the question of Love or Arranged Marriage will never put anyone in a predicament. Love is only favourable step for Marriage? it can also be called an Arranged Marriage. Similarly nowadays an ideal family proposed marriage will differ from a conventional Arranged marriage provided both people finds comfortable when the majority of factors are synchronized prompting them to love each other prior to marriage! This is the present day reality.

Prospective brides and grooms?. Please focus more into studies and carrier and be ready to commence the process of marriage?.. Keep on identifying a spouse who is likely to identify you as his/her spouse! Let your family too be involved in their own search. They cannot thrust any marriage on you. You alone will decide your marriage. See all pros and cons of options available, but never waste too much time for this compliance. There is no best decision or worst decision. Once decide never try to do post-mortem analysis. You have to carry forward and make a best family??.. You have to believe that you are in the right track for a long haul of life together?..

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null - (2014-06-05 15:40:35.0)

I think Arranged marriage is far better than love marriage. I shall give you a psychological edge to this fact. If a thing pleases your eyes you start liking it then you start loving it and this is where your heart comes into play. Then it is taken over by your mind and you start questioning your heart and mind as to why only this face. In like debate in-between yourself the heart is the winner (90%)

whereas in case of arranged marriage your parents who have seen the world with all views and have experienced the stage which you are into can balance the situations better and can go in details. More over in love marriage what I have seen both the girls and the boy try to put their best foot forward when the love is on as the fear of losing is there and when it comes to marriage and they start staying together they come to know the complete man or woman and then there are many things which might not be appreciated by each other and there is a sad ending. Where as in arranged marriage a new man/woman is front of you and you have to understand and explore him/her from the very beginning and you are mentally prepared for it so the conflicts are less.
All said and it is the compromising level on the partners which makes a marriage successful weather it is arranged or Love. You have to be a good swimmer to reach the other end. You yourself a parameter to calculate it.

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null - (2014-06-05 16:14:42.0)

The most convincing reason that proves arranged marriages is better than Love marriages would be Statistics! In most cases, couples who had an arranged marriage are more understanding towards each other.

For

1. In an arranged marriage, first few years of the marriage are spent in knowing and understanding the person. There is a sense and demand of spending more time with each other.
2. In a love marriage, before the marriage, the couple shares a very different level of understanding. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey.
3. It is easy to adjust with the partner in an arranged marriage as compared to love marriage. This is because in a love marriage things may often be taken for granted.
4. Since the partners have never met before, in an arranged marriage, they care more about each other needs.
5. Arranged marriages help resolves domestic issues faster. There is a sense of fear of losing the partner.
6. For some unforeseen reason, the marriage does not work; there are many people who will support more.
7. In most cases, love marriages force the couple to stay away from family. This leaves them with no choice but to tackle their own problems.


Against

1.In today?s busy lives no one has the time to understand each other after marriage.
2.Arranged marriage, most of the times works on compromises. In a love marriage they were in love even before the marriage and hence compromises are less.
3. In an arranged marriage, social obligations can get frustrating at times.
4. Love married couples learn how to become independent since most of the times they are separated and hence are able to tackle their problems.
5. A comfort level has already been developed between the couple.
6. Expectations from parents are less since most of the times decision of marrying is usually initiated by the couple.

Whether it is love or arranged, trust, understanding and commitment is what drives towards a successful marriage.

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null - (2014-06-05 18:18:41.0)

hi

Marriage is one of the most important stage in one?s life.
According to me i guess both love and arranged have advantages as well as disadvantages.
Fears of love marriage grip the hearts of parents who tend to push their children into unwilling alliances resulting in separation and divorce.
If it?s an arranged marriage then there may arise a problem on dowry.
So we can never conclude which one lasts forever.
There are several examples of both kinds of marriages ending disastrously.

For a marriage to remain sweet and stable there should be trust ,cooperation and understanding between partners.
Domestic quarrels may not harm much.
In today?s fast and complex world marriages seem to have become a matter involving egos and money rather than love and romance.
Problems may arise when individuals in a couple have greater commitment to themselves rather than their partner.
It may also arise due to misunderstanding, possessiveness, jealousy, suspicion etc.

Thus I would like to conclude that marriage is not a moments pleasure, it?s a garden that needs constant tending.

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null - (2014-06-05 18:33:43.0)

Marriage is something in which some hearts are bound together by the relationship called love. Couples should understand each other. In arranged marriage time given for a couple to understand each other is very small so it is very difficult to have a better understanding. But in the case of love marriage each will understand each other. So there will be very minimum chance for misunderstandings. Love occurs between the people who understand each other. The main reason for problem between the couples is misunderstanding. In the love marriage misunderstandings are minimum so it stands for life.

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null - (2014-06-05 20:50:06.0)

I believe that arranged marriage better than love marriage, because after arranged marriage people start to know each other, they start interest in each other.

According the research arranged marriages only has a divorce rate 4%, but divorce rate in love marriages is 50%. For example, in Asian counties the most popular type of marriage was arranged marriage in 20th century. So, my grandparents, my parents did the same. And nowadays they love each other very much. And they say that their love become bigger and bigger. They say that they start knowing each other after the wedding, they start respect each other, and now they can`t live without each other.

The example is marriage of my brother. He met a girl, they start going out. After some period of time he said `I can`t wait anymore, Marry me`. They were so blind. They got married, but after 2 years of living together they divorced. Despite of love, love marriage they divorced. Because they had big expectations from each other, they were blind before marriage.

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null - (2014-06-05 21:26:55.0)

Marriages can be divided into 3 categories Arranged marriage, Love marriage and love arranged marriage. In this every category has individual deeds. Arranged marriage are only by wish of parents in this in this both the couples doesn't know about each this is lead to some problem if its not sooner also later surely problem will come between them. Now love marriage in this each understand themselves what they are what and all they all things but if they marry without the permission there parents surely problem if a small problem comes between them became so bigger and this will also lead to the disaster, And the best is to do is the love arranged marriage in this couples as well the family members will be happy and if problem comes it will be solved easily but I am sure in this no problem or anything will come to them.

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null - (2014-06-05 21:55:52.0)

First thing 'MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN' whether it is LOVE or ARRANGE. But now a day?s arrange marriages are not going successful as we all came to know. Its better to select the person whom you want to marry, which can lead a successful life with love. No love means no life. Without love, life is like unreason fruits. In arrange marriage if love is not there between partners means what is the use of relationship? So please think of your life and select your partner because you will get your life only once to live.

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null - (2014-06-05 22:06:33.0)

In Today's world Smoking has become fashionable. As we know that Smoking is a practice in which a substance called tobacco is burned and the smoke is tasted or inhaled. The one of the most common examples of smoking is cigarettes. Smoking is injurious to health. People who smoking not only they suffered but only suffered the surrounding people. However, although I feel that smoking can be harmful, I do not think it should be banned completely.

Against -

1. Smoking should be banned or not it is a personal choice. If a smoker is acting with regards to others around them or in their personal home or space then they should be allowed to have the right to light up.
2. Smoking undoubtedly helps many people to relax. Many people like to smoke before exams or when they are relaxing with friends.
3. Smoking can never be quit by anyone. so, government should take efforts to put ban on deadliest cigarettes. But till now smoking not banned because corrupted people government take profit from this business.
4. If cigarette will be banned then it will not help out the people to avoid smoking but instead of that it will affect those poor people who earn their daily wages from the cigarette industry. Hence alternate steps should be encouraged by the government such as banning of smoking at the public places.

For -

1. Smoking is harmful to the smoker's health as well as the environment. so, it should be completely banned. As we know that health is wealth if we lose our health we lose everything. According to World Health Organization (WHO), tobacco kills 5.4 million people a year and it is predicted to kill 1 billion people in the 21st century if current smoking trends continue. Smoking contributes to millions of deaths due to Lung cancer, throat cancer, wrinkles, gum disease and many more.
2. it is dangerous for your health and it even affect to economy so I think that smoking should be banned completely.
3. At the cost of human lives, revenue earning to the country is meaningless. So save people from smoking and stay healthy.
4. Besides the benefits of smoking, People who addict to tobacco pay much money to buy cigarettes a year. Further governments around the world have to pay billion dollars for the treatment in hospitals for health problems. There is also concern today about passive smoking.
5. To Stop Smoking, Make the awareness in schools, colleges and universities. Cancer patient pictures have to be banner in public places and exhibition centre.

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null - (2014-06-05 22:25:32.0)

love marriage is definitely better because we have the rights to choose our own husband/wife, and you get to experience true love, instead of dreaming of true love when you're in an arranged marriage, and most of the wives in the arranged marriage end up being a slave. Love marriage has an advantage of being easy to adjust to the marriage life, no awkwardness between them. And parents shouldn't be so controlling towards their child, they shouldn't look for advantages in the partner only, they should give a lot of value to their child's feelings. they say that their child is what's important and try to find best for them but do they even ask about how their child feels or thinks about arranged marriage, parents are finding the best for their child's life, not for their child's desire which I think is wrong.

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null - (2014-06-06 10:21:26.0)

I think Arranged marriage is far better than love marriage. I shall give you a psychological edge to this fact. If a thing pleases your eyes you start liking it then you start loving it and this is where your heart comes into play. Then it is taken over by your mind and you start questioning your heart and mind as to why only this face. In like debate in-between yourself the heart is the winner (90%)

whereas in case of arranged marriage your parents who have seen the world with all views and have experienced the stage which you are into can balance the situations better and can go in details. More over in love marriage what I have seen both the girls and the boy try to put their best foot forward when the love is on as the fear of losing is there and when it comes to marriage and they start staying together they come to know the complete man or woman and then there are many things which might not be appreciated by each other and there is a sad ending. Where as in arranged marriage a new man/woman is front of you and you have to understand and explore him/her from the very beginning and you are mentally prepared for it so the conflicts are less.

All said and it is the compromising level on the partners which makes a marriage successful weather it is arranged or Love. You have to be a good swimmer to reach the other end. You yourself are parameter to calculate it.

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null - (2014-06-06 11:52:40.0)

Yes love marriage is better than arrange one,becoz marriage is not a game that if one is lost then again in next match he may win, and those who are talking about rate of divorce definitely less in arrange but the reason is not that the couples are happy instead they are forced to live together, there are many couples in our country who want divorce, not happy got frustrated with their partners but have to live whole life with such a person whom you don't like, I don?t know how people can live whole life in this manner just because of family pressure.

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null - (2014-06-06 12:55:51.0)

I am married to my boyfriend .We were along for 8 yrs then we decided to get married. Although we got married with our families consent only and with huge celebrations. Now I have a 8 months Son: RYAN and we are very happy with our life. There is a special bonding that we share among ourselves. I think Love Marriages give a boost to NON-Dowry environment .We marry our beloved and we don?t want to take any Dowry. It is a special thread which is taken care of by both the partners. In Arranged marriages there is a pressure on the couple .Family values are at stake in arrange marriages if the the new bride or bridegroom does not gives importance to it..Even finally I can say that in Love marriages we decide about our future on our own so we cannot blame on others for any side effects of our marriages.

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null - (2014-06-06 13:04:01.0)

Arrange marriages can be exciting and adventurous if you don't love anyone. then only you can give your life partner the special place in your heart , but if you already love someone ,then it is almost impossible to replace that person . Had marriage been a short duration event in your life, you could have thought of compromising for your family but since it is not an interim event, you cant risk your whole life because you may then be staying with person you are tied with but your heart will be with always beating for the person you love..So it would be like cheating yourself, your spouse, n your whole family..n that time you won?t be having anything except pain and regret every moment..We have only one life ,n if you have someone who loves you unconditionally then its a gift of god..live your life to the fullest , you wont get another chance.. be happy and spread that happiness everywhere.

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null - (2014-06-06 13:13:06.0)

I am in an arranged marriage and i find it great............I am able to understand my husband completely only after staying with him and he turned out to be much better person than he was during courtship period..........and I guess its same with him......misunderstanding problems everything happens but it sorted out immediately.......even if we r not on talking terms we can understand what?s going in each other?s mind.............yes family is important............because they are naturally empowered to make or break your marriage.(by creating trivial long-lasting problem or by helping u solve the problem or by being non interfering)..........so believe it or not in India arrange marriages work better than love marriages bcoz of the social structure and culture..........and of course here marriage is not between two people but two families...........we shall never forget this fact.

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null - (2014-06-07 11:13:09.0)

Either Love or Arrange marriage both is fine if you find right partner. Unfortunately if things go wrong arrange marriage better as at least you will have family support and Love marriage is a big disaster for your life if your life partner is not good. But can't say which one is better as everything depends on your partner. We have lots of examples for both cases having good and bad experiences.

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